A Question
From A Girl...
Joseph
Matthews
Art of Approaching
Women
I
recently received an email from a young lady concerning my
dating advice...
QUESTION FROM A WOMAN:
Hi -
Must admit, my initial sign-up was to see exactly what my 'ex'
was reading up on once we had split up.
I was surprisingly pleased to find that much of what your
newsletters entailed was pretty darned accurate.
None of the 'go for it, she's putty anyway' garbage that some
of the other "guys" out there seem to think is appropriate
behaviour for single men in approaching single women.
So having said that, I'm now curious. You still write your
newsletters (3 weeks into my receiving them) as if you're a
single man. If this is the case, is it because you've not found
anyone that stimulates your "self" enough to pursue a longer
term relationship, or do you continue to present yourself as
such in order to present a 'united front' in a man's pursuit of
successfully approaching women, even though you yourself have
entered a mutually pleasing relationship already?
Just curious,
Pam
MY RESPONSE:
Are you asking because you want to date me?
=)
Here's the thing...
I don't write from a "single man's" perspective, nor do I try
to put up a "unified front" for the benefit of all me out
there.
I write from the perspective of a man trying to UNDERSTAND
women.
See, this is key...
The real problems that people run into with male/female
dynamics is that they don't understand where the other person
is coming from.
Women are a mystery to most men.
Men are a mystery to most women.
Its not until we try to understand the opposite sex that we can
start having real success with them.
Back in my "lovable loser" days, this was something that was
COMPLETELY foreign to me.
Seriously, I had NO CLUE about how women operated. I was so
busy focused on my own needs, ideas, and feelings, that I never
bothered to understand things from the other side.
Many men fall into this trap.
When a guy approaches a girl, and its obvious he's interested,
and he doesn't bother to try to understand the mental space
she's coming from, and he blurts out:
"I like you. Wanna go out sometime?"
He's demonstrating a COMPLETE lack of understanding about the
woman he's approaching.
And you know what? That turns women off.
But the same guy will then turn around and despair about how
"unlucky" he is with chicks.
But the rub is this:
LUCK HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT.
Its about understanding the woman you're approaching.
What is she thinking?
What is she feeling?
What is she responding to?
What is turning her off?
These are all VERY IMPORTANT factors in being successful in
relationships and dating.
This is because true success comes from creating powerful
connections between a man and a woman.
Love, sex, relationships... none of them can happen without
SOME FORM of connection between two people.
If you lack understanding, it is very hard to form these kinds
of connections.
But if you understand the underlying process of creating
connections, things like active disinterest, strategic
flirting, powerful confidence, covert openers, and various
other things I talk about in The Art Of Approaching...
You can achieve INCREDIBLE success.
And what's more, it can happen FAST.
So if you're serious about getting good with women, you really
need to check out my book the Art Of Approaching.
In it, you'll find all the best strategies for creating
powerful connections with women.
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Now!
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Talk soon,
Joseph Matthews, Art of Approaching Women
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