Dealing with Other Guys

Mark is the author of the excellent report "The Truth About College Game" as well as the bestselling "Conquer Your Campus Training Manual".

Yooooo…. ok this was an old email I sent out to some of my boys about dealing with other guys. It wasn’t part of that series of six emails from the Truth About College Game report, but its def worth seeing:

Hey guys, one thing I want to discuss in more depth because we left it out when we talked: dealing with other dudes. I want to put down a few thoughts here, we can expand in more depth later.

In college, because of the tribe mentality we discussed, there is a constant jostling among men for superiority. Expect it. Even your boys will try to give you shit and its usually unintentional, but you might as well know how to deal. Like, my buddy Ken and I were out the other night and he kept doing this thing where he’d lean on my shoulder while I was talking to girls. He gets more p*ssy than most guys I know but he was just trying to show me he could f*ck with me. The first time he did it I just turned around as if I was looking for someone, then the SECOND time he did it I told the girl that she and I should go get shots. He knew what was up and I love the guy to death but once you start being a serious pimp (and I know that you guys are well on the way based on the results you’ve been getting since our call) you’re going to have to know how to deal with this.

So Christian taught me something huge about AMOG’ing. This is parlance for “alpha male other guy” aka when another guy tries to show you up. Its a f*king stupid expression but whatever, it works. Christian’s not a huge guy but I’ve never seen someone better at amoging, and we were talking about what he does and what I’ve been doing and I think we broke it down better than I’ve ever seen.

Basically, if another guy is fuckign with you, you have to do one of two things:
- Break rapport if he is trying to build it
- Build rapport if he is trying to break it

And you always do this from an alpha perspective. So if the guy is trying to build rapport, you have to be “too cool for school”, like maybe you humor him a little bit, but you’re mostly just giving him shit. And if the guy is trying to break rapport, you need to build it from the perspective of being alpha nice. Some examples might help:

Let’s say you’re talking to a girl, you leave her for a minute, and then you come back and there’s some dude there. As you get back into the conversation, he tries to edge you out. He’s breaking rapport. So you need to be the bigger man, ask him his name, compliment him a bit about something (DON’T ask him questions except for his name), then as he keeps trying to break rapport, you’re trying to build rapport with him AND with the girl from the perspective of being the fun, super-social guy. It will make this guy look like he is just out for p*ssy and not to have fun. You can even call him on it if you want.

On the other hand, I’ve had it when guys try to break into my interactions and they’re trying to build rapport. Like, they’ll be asking a lot of questions, but they do it from this perspective of humoring me. So in those situations, you need to break rapport and be a bit of a dick. So what I was taught to do was to mirror them, ask a quick question or give a quick complement, then immediately break rapport and be like “so, why all these questions?” Or just indicate that you’re not interested in talking to them and edge them out. Again, do this from an alpha perspective.

Make sense? I’m sure that we’ll think about this some more and come up with a better way of saying it. But yeah, hope this helps get your minds working - I want feedback.

I ended up writing more about this topic - waaaay more - in my Conquer Your Campus Training Manual. Word word.